Couples and relationship therapy is a structured, intentional process focused on improving emotional safety, communication, and relational functioning while supporting each partner’s differentiation and integrity. I work with monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, kink-affirming, and LGBTQIA+ relationships, with sensitivity to the unique dynamics and stressors that can arise in diverse relational structures.

In couples therapy, we focus on:

• Understanding interactional patterns that fuel conflict, disconnection, or power struggles.

• Reducing reactivity and escalation by increasing awareness of nervous system states and survival responses (polyvagal framework).

• Strengthening differentiation and “solid self” functioning, so partners can remain emotionally present without appeasing, withdrawing, or controlling.

• Addressing sexual concerns such as desire discrepancies, sexual shame, trauma histories, communication around needs and boundaries, and erotic connection.

• Using CBT and Crucible-informed interventions to examine how beliefs, assumptions, and emotional triggers shape relational behavior.

• Practicing new ways of engaging through in-session coaching, structured dialogue, and experiential exercises.

Couples therapy is not about assigning blame or forcing agreement. Instead, it supports partners in learning how to tolerate emotional intensity, speak honestly without attacking or collapsing, and make conscious choices about the future of the relationship—whether that involves deepening connection, restructuring the relationship, or discerning next steps with clarity and respect.